“Surely in the remembrance of God do the hearts find rest.” (Quran 13:28)
“How wonderful is the case of a believer! There is good for her in everything, and this is not the case with anyone except a believer. If prosperity attends her, her expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for her; and if adversity befalls her, her endures it patiently and that is better for her.” –Prophet Muhammad
~ Sharon Salzberg ~
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”–Theodore M. Hesburgh
“How wonderful is the case of a believer! There is good for her in everything, and this is not the case with anyone except a believer. If prosperity attends her, her expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for her; and if adversity befalls her, her endures it patiently and that is better for her.” (Muslim)
“I still believe that love—universal, unconditional love—is the key to peace. Love leads to forgiveness. Forgiveness leads to healing. Healing leads to community. Community leads to a lasting peace.”– Mrs. Coretta Scott King
“Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own [ and by extention] another’s spiritual growth… Love is as love does. Love is an act of will — namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.”
“You are sticking your neck out, taking risks, being different, probably to the scorn of others. This is lonely. But the loneliness is temporary. Soon you’ll find others who are doing things different, and you’ll connect with them in a way you’d never have connected with the people taking the safe path. You’ll be inspired by them, and inspire them in turn.”–Leo Babauta
“Real love unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth. Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving.”
“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”
Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times
“When you start to really know someone, all their physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant.”–Lisa Unger
“Rather than indulge or reject our experience, we can somehow let the energy of the emotion, the quality of what we’re feeling, pierce us to the heart. This is easier said than done, but it’s a noble way to live. it’s definitely the path of compassion – the path of cultivating human bravery and kindheartedness.” –Pema Chödrön
“An analogy for bodhichitta is the rawness of a broken heart. Sometimes this broken heart gives birth to anxiety and panic, sometimes to anger, resentment, and blame. But under the hardness of that armor there is the tenderness of genuine sadness. This is our link with all those who have ever loved. This genuine heart of sadness can teach us great compassion. It can humble us when we’re arrogant and soften us when we are unkind. It awakens us when we prefer to sleep and pierces through our indifference. This continual ache of the heart is a blessing that when accepted fully can be shared with all.” -Pema Chodrom
“Meditation accepts us just as we are in both our tantrums and our bad habits, in our love and commitments and happiness. It allows us to have a more flexible identity because we learn to accept ourselves and all of our human experience with more tenderness and openness. We learn to accept the present moment with an open heart. Every moment is incredibly unique and fresh, and when we drop into the moment, as meditation allows us to do, we learn how to truly taste this tender and mysterious life that we share together.”–Pema Chodrom
“Sometimes we think that to develop an open heart, to be truly loving and compassionate, means that we need to be passive.. to smile and let anyone do what they want with us. Yet this is not what is meant by compassion. Quite the contrary. Compassion is not at all weak. It is the strength that arises out of seeing the true nature of suffering in the world.”-Pema Chodrom
“Compassion allows us to bear witness to that suffering, whether it is in ourselves or others, without fear; it allows us to name injustice without hesitation, and to act strongly, with all the skill at our disposal.To develop this mind state of compassion… is to learn to live, as the Buddha put it, with sympathy for all living beings, without exception.” –Sharon Salzberg, from ‘Loving-kindness’
“We can learn to see each other and see ourselves in each other and recognize that human beings are more alike than we are unalike.”–Maya Angelou
“Everything we do is infused with the energy with which we do it. If we’re frantic, life will be frantic. If we’re peaceful, life will be peaceful. And so our goal in any situation becomes inner peace.” –Marianne Williamson
“Life is available only in the present. That is why we should walk in such a way that every step can bring us to the here and now.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
“God made the world for the delight of human beings– if we could see His goodness everywhere, His concern for us, His awareness of our needs: the phone call we’ve waited for, the ride we are offered, the letter in the mail, just the little things He does for us throughout the day. As we remember and notice His love for us, we just begin to fall in love with Him because He is so busy with us — you just can’t resist Him. I believe there’s no such thing as luck in life, it’s God’s love, it’s His.” -― Mother Teresa
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”– Marianne Williamson
“In dealing with people, we already have the perfect model of behavior inside us. Just act sincerely, in accordance with your true nature. Do not do to others what you would
not want done to you…”
Confucius said: “Sincerity is the way of heaven; arriving at sincerity is the way of man. The sincere person does the right thing without trying, understands the truth without thinking, and acts always in keeping with the Tao.”
Sincerity is the fulfillment of our own nature, and to arrive at it we need only follow our true self. Sincerity is the beginning and end of existence; without it, nothing can endure. Therefore the mature person values sincerity above all things.
Sincerity is not only the fulfillment of our own being; it is also the quality through which all beings are fulfilled. When we fulfill our own being, we become truly human; when we fulfill all beings, we arrive at true understanding. These qualities — humanity and understanding — are inherent in our nature, and by means of them we unite the inner and the outer. Thus, when we act with sincerity, everything we do is right.— Tzu-tsu, The Central Harmony
A MEDITATION student I was working with, whom I’ll call Dan, had a serious alcohol and drug problem. He was really making great strides, and then he went on a binge. On the day I found out about it I happened to have an opportunity to see my teacher Trungpa Rinpoche. I blurted out to him how upset I was that Dan had gone on a binge. I was so disappointed. Rinpoche got really angry; it completely stopped my heart and mind. He said that being upset about Dan’s binge was my problem. “You should never have expectations for other people. Just be kind to them,” he told me. In terms of Dan, I should just help him keep walking forward inch by inch and be kind to him—invite him for dinner, give him little gifts, and do anything to bring some happiness to his life—instead of having these big goals for him. He said that setting goals for others can be aggressive—really wanting a success story for ourselves. When we do this to others, we are asking them to live up to our ideals. Instead, we should just be kind.
Generally speaking, we regard discomfort in any form as bad news. but for practitioners or spiritual warriors – people who have a certain hunger to know what is true – feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back, they teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. theyre like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. this very moment is the perfect teacher and lucky for us , its with us whereever we are.
“It is not that our parents did not feel love toward us, but that for many, freedom to express love unconditionally was hindered by cultural norms and by the unresolved pain from their own upbringing. Many of them didn’t experience unconditional love even though their parents loved them absolutely. When facing their own children, these parents may have felt painfully unable to give that which they did not experience. Indeed, many of us grew up fearing that if we didn’t do as our parents expected, they wouldn’t love us, a feeling we don’t want to pass on to our children. Instead, let us adopt the attitude expressed by Mary Haskell in a love letter to the poet Kahlil Gibran: “Nothing you become will disappoint me; I have no preconception that I’d like to see you be or do. I have no desire to foresee you, only to discover you. You cannot disappoint me.” –Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming parent-child relationships from reaction and struggle to freedom, power, and joy (Naomi Aldort), p. 43.